Many parents and grandparents have huge trouble in accepting the divorce of their children. And in many cases they are right: Divorce most often is not the best solution for the trouble the couple find themselves in.
Somehow however, the emotional charge on the whole issue makes that no one can clearly think or communicate, and the couple is often left pretty much on it's own to search for other solutions than divorce.
I want to give you, as a counsellor, coach, good friend or parent, keys to improve the situation: not only for yourself, but also for the couple in trouble.
In the time of our grandparents, disturbed marriage always had social and emotional support from the extended family. Often a grandmother or aunt would take the role of spiritual advisor, and with the necessary patience and love, the situation would improve over time.
Unfortunately, we now think that these are private issues, and even parents should not mingle in the marital trouble of their children.
My stance is that this is not true. More often than not, children will feel themselves abandoned and isolated, and when given in a proper way according to certain rules, support can be extremely helpful for the troubled couple and their children, especially when given by their parents and close relatives.
More about Counselling Guidance for supporting divorcing couples on http://charlottekamman.com
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Monday, May 10, 2010
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